{"id":3675,"date":"2026-02-03T20:05:25","date_gmt":"2026-02-03T20:05:25","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/silvaten.no\/what-does-it-mean-to-have-a-strong-desire-to-work-but-still-not-get-a-job\/"},"modified":"2026-03-23T22:16:10","modified_gmt":"2026-03-23T22:16:10","slug":"what-does-it-mean-to-have-a-strong-desire-to-work-but-still-not-get-a-job","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/silvaten.no\/en\/what-does-it-mean-to-have-a-strong-desire-to-work-but-still-not-get-a-job\/","title":{"rendered":"When love becomes “too much”"},"content":{"rendered":"\t\t
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When love becomes “too much”<\/p>

When you let someone get really close, they see your most vulnerable places.
Your silence. Your longing. Your sacred memories. <\/p>

And if in that moment you hear:
“Please, don’t talk about your mom anymore”,
the pain becomes very clear.<\/p>

Not because of the words themselves.
But because where you expected understanding, safety, and closeness, distance arises.<\/p>

I rarely shared that longing.
It wasn’t a complaint. It wasn’t a burden.
It was love. A part of my heart. A connection that never ends. <\/p>

When love becomes uncomfortable, you realize how much space there actually is for your feelings.
And you realize that not everyone is able to stand by deeper emotions.<\/p>

I let someone close. I trusted.
But instead of resonance, I met a boundary. <\/p>

I respect boundaries. We all have the right to protect ourselves.
But in that moment, I felt how important it is for me to be with those who are able to listen\u2014even when the topic is painful. <\/p>

It wasn’t anger.
It was a realization.<\/p>

That some people can be gentle on the surface,
but true closeness begins where you no longer need to hide your heart.<\/p>

I choose people I can be real with.
Without masks. Without filters.
Those who can listen.
Those who aren’t afraid of either their own or others’ feelings. <\/p>

For me, closeness means the ability to stay.
To stay with a memory.
With the longing.
With the love that never fades.<\/p>

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And if that’s “too much” for some,
perhaps I simply need depth.<\/p><\/div><\/div>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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